It's turning out to be quite the week of comebacks, First SD, then I decide to start blogging again now I am meeting blast from the past #2 tonight after work.
I bumped into him last Friday on my way to work. We went to Uni together and I haven't seen him since. He was part of a group of four Nigerians who all hung out together at Uni because not only were we the only black people on campus (this was back in 1998) but we were all Nigerian. Unfortunately, I was the only chick so I did all the cooking!
So this guy and I have a very funny history because somewhere in the middle of our friendship, something happened, or did it? We never dated and we didn't go all the way but I think we messed around a bit copping a feel here and there or did we? It's very strange because I have very vague memories of this day (it was only one time if it did happen at all) but because it was never discussed and our friendship went on in a business as usual fashion, I often wonder if I didn't imagine it, after all I am a writer of sorts aren't I?
Anyhow, he gave me his card and I emailed him as I was very excited to bump into my friend from over 10yrs ago. We lost touch due to a combination of factors. I lost approx. 5 years of my life as my career was non existent, I was perpetually broke so I couldn't socialise and I was caught up in a ridiculous romance which no one but myself knew about at the time because it was a love triangle. He chose her but it still took a couple of years for the dust to settle on that one - I was still hacking into his email last year - but I digress.
He on the other hand, was doing quite well and he tried to help my career along by coaching me and sending me jobs to apply to but eventually I withdrew and I guess he gave up. Fast forward to 2010 and now I'm flying high and looking good whilst I'm at it so of course when I bumped into him again, I enthusiastically agreed to meet for a catch up. I had heard he was married so I wasn't thinking anything.
Until Monday evening when I got a text asking what the plan was for Wed. I replied and suggested the venue and time. Then he came back with "so don't tell me a fine girl like you is still single". Alarm bells went off I tell you (sebi he is married) but I replied saying " Na so we see am o my broda, how is your wife?" Then he replies "Wife sha? That one na long story, see you on Wed sweet dreams x"
My heart sank as I thought oh no, I hope he is not going to try to go there. If you're wondering why INi am not singing with joy at this oasis in the middle of the desert also known as my love life, see my previous post as most of the reasons apply including the fact that he's not black lol. If that confuses you, he was born and bred in Naija and speaks Hausa and pidgin fluently.
Let me not get ahead of myself. I will come back and report when I have met him tonight. What an exciting week this is turning out to be.... meanwhile SD has chickened out, he hasn't confirmed our date tomorrow yet and I think I will let sleeping dogs lie. Perhaps he also felt what I felt when we spoke and decided not to go there for his wife's sake. Either way, I am grateful to be spared another foolish decision. Lord help me to wise up day by day. Amen.
To be continued.....
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